THE Safe Schools program is a talking point among politicians, but what should parents do in the real world if their child is being bullied?
If the foundations of good manners are caring for others’ comfort, listening more than you speak, and glossing over the poor manners of others, “good manners” actually grossly disadvantage women.
Two days after I moved into my house, our new handyman Pete came to fix the windows. After showing him the problem, I made a polite retreat to my home office. Pete called out a regular commentary on all things window, and when he was done making them worse (“I’ll need to come back and take the whole frame apart!”) I got up to politely see him out.
At first meeting, Elissa comes across as an attractive, thoroughly independent professional woman in her thirties. Get closer and you’ll also find she’s warm, generous – what you might call emotionally intelligent. The woman has her shit in order.
After a long period of internet dating, she was set up by a friend with Chris – ‘an awesome bloke’, according to Elissa. Yet three weeks into dating him, she found herself, yet again, ‘acting like a psycho’. Hot and cold, getting down to sexy business one minute, then fighting a strong desire to, erm, punch him in the face the next.
Growing up, my only understanding of sex work came from movies. While I always thought “I could do that if I really had to”, I never seriously considered it. Soon after turning 18, my friend and I were walking down a Melbourne laneway when she pointed to an ad for an Australian porn company. She was joking, but I was curious. I’d always been the more sexual one among my friends, and after much research I started doing erotic modelling.
Apparently our latest #firstworldproblem is that we are rapidly approaching ‘peak Upworthy’. If an inspiring college student’s spoken word piece ‘brought hardened stockbrokers to tears’, we’ve shared it. If a mother duck in a Bronx alley had three must-watch lessons on tough-love, we’ve learned them.
Revelations that the former leader of Satyananda’s Australian ashrams abused children for decades have shocked the yoga community worldwide. Meanwhile, police are investigating the spiritual director of two more Australian ashrams amidst claims of sexual abuse. Is it time to do away with the guru model?
For this story I interviewed Lani Brennan – a freakishly strong woman who pushed through institutional racism to bring her attacker to court.
“I grew up in an environment where everyone was drinking and there was a lot of violence. I got together with my partner at 17, but I’d known him my whole life. We were both using drugs and alcohol, and it started with verbal abuse. I already had low self-esteem on account of being an alcoholic and addict, so I was primed to accept that kind of treatment.
The title put me off, but I bought it anyway. I did the exercises, and hot dang, I started to feel better. Then slowly calls started coming. “So ah … did you say you actually bought that miracle book?”
You’re idly scanning your Facebook feed, past photos of organic seedlings and Andalusian beer, when suddenly a black-and-white splotch claims top spot. Your first thought: Christ on a stick! My friend is pregnant with an out of focus baby! Your second: How did they keep that secret for twelve weeks?
When I got engaged, I was determined ‘not to be one of those silly bridezillas who lose their s*** over table-settings and colour schemes.’ Certain I was above such signs of the patriarchy as bridal anxiety, I channeled Mean Girls’ Amy Poehler ‘I’m not like a regular bride – I’m a cool bride!’